lately i've been asked if i am sad that i am having yet another boy. for a time, i hesitated with my answer wondering if i should be? i don't hesitate anymore. i've come to know that it will be very fitting for me to have all boys.
i am so happy that we are able to have yet another boy. there was a time when i longed to have a girl in our family but through the process of doing two rounds of in-vitro fertilization we learned from the contents of those petri dishes that we are just really good at making boys! and it just fits with us. it fits with me specifically.
i love boys.
i always have loved being around boys.
when i was a teenager my dad was in charge of the young men at church. he was always having them over to our house and doing fun activities with them. they went snow skiing and to basketball games and other outings. the best part was that my dad almost always took me along with him! i went on so many young men ski trips that i think i was viewed as the mascot. i couldn't have been happier. i loved how the guys would joke and tease one another and me for that matter. i love how they interacted with my dad. i was close friends with so many of them that i felt like i had a posse of older brothers to protect me.
in my later teen years i tried out for a local ballroom dance team. i did it primarily to get to know the boys on the team! there was such a dynamic, athletic and popular group of boys on the dance team at the time from all over the valley. i tried out two years in a row just trying to secure a spot on the team while those guys were on it. i finally made the cut and the weekly practices, the performances and the touring trips was one of the best parts of my high school years. those guys became excellent friends. i trusted them. i had to--as dance partners they propelled me into the air for lifts! a cadre of them were my dates to my high school homecomings, sadie hawkins and prom dances. in the summers we played sand volleyball, had pool parties and golfed. though they were from all corners of the las vegas valley they were all members of the same church i was (mormon.org).
when the time came for the guys in my ward to go on missions and the guys on the dance team to go on missions, i found myself writing to most of them. i was a regular post office, producing crazy amounts of friendly letters and getting a stack of letters weekly in return. i loved getting letters from them! i wrote to support them and they shared with me some of their lessons learned and tender spiritual ups and downs. it was such a fun thing to be involved in during high school. many of those letters helped me to know what it was like to serve a mission in any part of the world. it helped me learn mission protocol and how when one is busiest with the work one is happiest.
my university years were full of being friends with guys. sometimes it was a bit of a hinderance when i liked one more than another. and i had many good girlfriends just as i had had in high school. i would say however, that if there were a room of girls right next to a room of boys i would always have chosen to walk in and strike up conversation with the boys. this same tendency followed me into my single years after university. i have so many great memories of the men i associated with in the bay area. again i had a few really close girlfriends in the bay area (with whom i am still closely tied and cherish) but there were all these terrifically fun guys who were our friends.
when it came to dating i was not coy. i was simple and straightforward. many times i was too straightforward. but it was always my goal to find just one man who would understand me and want nothing more than to team up with me and go the rest of the way through life together as just that...well matched partners. thank goodness rod found me. thank goodness rod appreciates me as i am. rod had no sisters but he loved his mother. he has a great ability to make women feel special and i am sure that if we did have a girl he would play barbies with her and read her girly books and take her on tons of daddy daughter dates. but we have boys. and he is so great with his boys! he builds legos with them and has built incredible train track set ups for them! he teaches them how to respect women and to act when mother calls them. our boys are in the best of company with him as their father.
this new little boy due in november to our family will fit in perfectly. i know my boys will embrace him. he will be on his own in many ways, not being a twin and being so much younger. however, we all are looking forward to his arrival. he will give us all a chance to serve and learn more patience. he will allow jack and morgan plenty of teaching moments as he grows. i can see them teaching him all about thomas trains and then legos will shortly follow. they will teach him along with rod teaching him how to ride a bike and shoot a hoop. i loved the little boy toys. i'm looking forward again to having the floors littered with trains and animals and hot wheels. i'm sure hoping he likes legos as much as jack and morgan do because we have plenty for him to have his own small store!
point is...i am the mother of boys. i'm happy with it. i find great comfort among them. i couldn't be happier and love more the boys i get to claim as my own!
photos: my boys watching t.v. morgan' soft skin called me from across the room to kiss him and capture his dear little profile. my boys playing with their friend, ben wallace. ben is a second generation zobrist playing with the second generation harris twins. (my twin brothers played with ben's mom's youngest brother for years!)
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